We all stumbled upon some people that just have a bad influence on your wellbeing. Their toxicity may have even affected some of your major life decisions. Although you may not be able to control 100% of what happens in life, you can at least make sure you’re surrounded by the right people. You deserve to be happy and to be surrounded by positivity, so if there are any people in your life that sound like the types of personalities described below, it might be better for your wellbeing to cut them out of your life.
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The discouraging friend
You’re excited about your goals in life and talk about them to your friend. Your friend says: “Are you sure you’re able to do that? It sounds like a lot of work.”. You instantly feel demotivated. Thoughts like “Maybe I’m not capable of something like this.” and “I should give up.” start going through your head. They are reflecting their own insecurities onto you. It might be petty that they think that they aren’t capable of accomplishing much, but that should never affect you and your goals. Friends are supposed to be just as excited about your goals as you are. They’re supposed to e supportive! Watch out for these types as they might affect important life decisions.
The one that takes advantage of you
This “friend” only remembers you when they need you. They won’t text you unless they need a summary to study for the upcoming exam, until they need you to do them a favor or maybe even until they need some money to help them out of trouble. You are are a kind person (maybe a bit of a people pleaser) and some people like to take advantage of that. This type doesn’t deserve your time and effort.
You’re not perfect, no one is. Everyone makes mistakes. Unless you constantly make the same exact mistake and don’t learn from it, constant criticism is not something you should put up with. If someone is constantly causing an uproar over the smallest things, without actually trying to help you get better or not make the same mistake again, it’s time to consider whether this person is actually worth a place in your life.
The one that always has to be right
The know-it-all. They will spend hours to prove why they are right in an argument. Sometimes it gets so frustrating you just give up and admit they’re right even though you know they’re dead wrong. These people have low emotional intelligence and feel very embarrassed whenever they have to admit that they were wrong. They rarely apologize for anything they did wrong because they don’t understand what they did wrong. They believe what they did was with god purpose. If someone is this frustrating, it might be time to consider whether this person is actually worth it.
There are six types of narcissists. Click here to see which one you’re dealing with. It does not matter which narcissist you’re dealing with. They all have the same purpose.
Narcissists lack the ability to feel empathy towards others. They simply didn’t develop that ability. Their “goal” in life is to compensate for their fragile self-esteem by being successful/powerful and having people see them as a “perfect” person. Their main goal in life is to regulate their self-esteem, which affects every single thing they do.
These are some symptoms of narcissism:
- Have an exaggerated sense of self-importance
- Have a sense of entitlement and require constant, excessive admiration
- Expect to be recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it
- Exaggerate achievements and talents
- Believe they are superior and can only associate with equally special people
- Monopolize conversations and belittle or look down on people they perceive as inferior
- Expect special favors
- Expect others to live up to their expectations without question while discouraging them at the same time
- Take advantage of others to get what they want
- Have an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others
- Are envious of others and believe others envy them
- Behave in an arrogant or haughty manner, coming across as conceited, boastful and pretentious
- Insist on having the best of everything — for instance, the best car or office
Narcissism can eventually destroy your spirit and being in such an environment can lead to depression and other mental health issues.
Is it okay to cut off a narcissistic relative?
The answer is YES. Yes, it is. Even if this person is one of your parents. Narcissistic parents are more destructive to your mental health than they are caring. Typically, narcissistic parents are exclusively and possessively close to their children and are threatened by their children’s growing independence. A narcissistic parent does not and never will accept their children the way they are. They will never be enough.
You are enough!
The negativity you have experienced in your life may have damaged your spirit and self-esteem, but you can certainly recover from this! You deserve to be happy. Going into therapy is never a bad idea and absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
BetterHelp is an app that has thousands of registered therapists ready to help you. It’s also more affordable and flexible than a regular therapist.
A therapist at BetterHelp may be able to make you feel better